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The Weightiness of Resolutions

December 31, 2014

Each year on this blog, it’s been the same thing: I post my resolutions for the upcoming year, whether it be nearly my only post for the year or not (see: 2014). I set goals that I may or may not achieve, and I publish them in the hopes that having them “in ink” online will provide me with some sort of motivation to get them done. ¬†And honestly, a fair amount of them are accomplished, especially considering how many resolutions never come to fruition in the macro, beyond myself.

But this year, I’m tired. 2014 chewed me up and spit me out. What looked like a year of promise turned into a year of survival. Of course, many more catastrophic things could’ve happened to me or in spite of me, and we did, in fact, survive, but I realize that my resolutions are often unattainable. This is not because I’m a poor goal-setter or because I create unrealistic expectations for myself, but because things change that are beyond my control actually quite often. My resolutions for 2014 were specific and fairly actionable, but this year, I’m going for things that are more in my control, regardless of changes. I might have a few actionable items, but mostly it’s about taking care of myself and putting what’s important first.

My 2015 Resolutions

First and foremost, I will stop letting other people determine my happiness, especially work. Many times, the things that I let “drag me down” are beyond my control, so why should I make myself unhappy because of it? I choose to be happy during 2015 and to let things roll off instead of upset me.

2015 will be my year of being proactive, instead of reactive. I will anticipate hardships and plan for them. I will deal with things immediately instead of procrastinating. I will finish something and let it go instead of letting it eat at me.

My several and varied passions, all of which I have thrown by the wayside, will have a place in my life, whether big or small, to give me the outlets that I need.

My priorities for 2015 are happiness and family. What does that entail? For me, it’s continuing to develop a close and loving relationship with my family; making sure that my marriage takes the helm over other relationships and engagements; setting limits on what needs to be done with work and what truly doesn’t matter; making weekends solely about family and never about main job work; feeling successful in my Jamberry small business and getting to hang out with the amazing women I meet through that venture; taking quiet moments to reflect on my life and center myself back into balance.

It is not stressing myself out over trivial things that others find important but really aren’t; letting work consume my life; driving home so late that the kids have to eat dinner on the road and go straight to bed; staying up late to finish some “important” item and losing sleep, causing me to go into a spiral for the week; alienating friends because of other “priorities” or social anxiety from alienating them previously.

So, after all this, I’d guess that I really only have one actual resolution: balance. Some things in life truly are more important, no matter what others try to do to convince you to rule in their favor, for their priority. How can I model to my children and my students what it means to have a truly full and loving life if I don’t practice balance myself? I only have two thirds of my life left, IF I’m seriously lucky. I’m not wasting another day.

Kids’ Birthday Party Ideas

April 1, 2014

over 200 kids party ideas

We’ve all seen those awesome party ideas all over the internet — the ones that make us hold our breath and exclaim, “Why didn’t I think of that?!?” These are the parties that don’t have anything to do with buying plates with the latest cartoon face plastered on the bottom. These are the parties that have seemingly boring themes, but with some creativity they yield amazing results, and they teach our kids to like what they like instead of liking what’s most popular.

I’m trying to get my kids away from cartoon-based parties and more into themes that we can create ourselves (well, after this year — between my job, two weddings, moving, conferences, and curriculum planning, it’s been a bit crazy!). I’m sure all of these parties have amazing ideas and pictures on Pinterest, but I’ve yet to see a really great list of ideas all in one post. That’s why I’m posting here – to begin the list. If you think of anything that should be added, comment and I will edit the post. Ideas for each party can come later — Right now, it’s always nice just to have a list to look at for ideas. And they don’t have to just be for boys or girls — pick what your kid likes and go with it, and make it work for their gender.

PS – I will slowly be organizing them into better groupings as I have time!

  1. butterflies
  2. ladybugs
  3. caterpillars
  4. worms
  5. picnic ants
  6. elephants
  7. owls
  8. foxes
  9. birds
  10. puppies
  11. kittens
  12. lizards
  13. dragons
  14. fish
  15. sharks
  16. dolphins
  17. jungle animals
  18. farm animals
  19. forest animals
  20. sea animals
  21. swamp animals
  22. desert animals
  23. rainforest animals
  24. arctic animals
  25. *insert your favorite animal*
  26. picnic
  27. campout
  28. bonfire
  29. garden
  30. flowers
  31. race car
  32. fire truck
  33. hot air balloon
  34. airplane
  35. boat
  36. bicycle
  37. carriage
  38. wagon
  39. train
  40. garage
  41. construction vehicles
  42. tools
  43. policeman
  44. firefighter
  45. astronaut
  46. doctor
  47. clown
  48. roses
  49. mushrooms
  50. rainbow
  51. cookies and milk
  52. stars
  53. hexagons
  54. diamonds
  55. polka dots
  56. stripes
  57. chevron
  58. alphabet
  59. numbers
  60. pinwheels
  61. windmills
  62. prince
  63. princess
  64. knight
  65. ninja
  66. pirate
  67. soldier
  68. sailor
  69. ballerina
  70. magician
  71. teddy bear
  72. musical instruments
  73. county fair
  74. fruits
  75. berries
  76. lemons and limes
  77. peaches
  78. apples
  79. oranges
  80. veggies
  81. ice cream
  82. cupcakes/baking/decorating
  83. spa
  84. makeover
  85. slumber
  86. jewelry making
  87. tshirt making
  88. fashion designer
  89. painting
  90. beach
  91. ocean
  92. pool
  93. indians
  94. cowboys
  95. tea party
  96. football
  97. soccer
  98. basebol
  99. tennis
  100. karate
  101. skater
  102. ice skating
  103. roller skating
  104. skateboarding
  105. bees
  106. dolls
  107. dinosaurs
  108. nautical
  109. mermaid
  110. starfish
  111. crab/lobster
  112. lemonade
  113. angel
  114. French
  115. Asian
  116. Indian
  117. Victorian
  118. British
  119. Hawaiian
  120. Hippie
  121. Flapper
  122. Fifties
  123. down under
  124. wizards
  125. paint brushes
  126. vintage
  127. circus
  128. carnival
  129. shabby chic
  130. french country
  131. fave fairy tale (Little Red Riding Hood, Jack and the Beanstalk, Goldilocks, Three Little Pigs)
  132. fave nursery rhyme (Humpty Dumpty, Hey Diddle Diddle, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, Jack and Jill)
  133. bow ties
  134. mustaches
  135. color-themed (gold, silver, blue, pink, etc.)
  136. rain
  137. clouds
  138. sun
  139. umbrellas
  140. flip flops
  141. travel
  142. knitting/sewing
  143. gumball
  144. sweet shop
  145. teddy bear
  146. blocks
  147. puzzles
  148. fishing
  149. hunting
  150. aviator
  151. carousel
  152. beach ball
  153. photography
  154. kites
  155. silhouette
  156. holiday themed
  157. ribbons and bows
  158. baby animals
  159. seasons (winter, spring, summer, fall)
  160. farm
  161. city
  162. plaid
  163. monsters
  164. hairstyling
  165. paper dolls
  166. mason jars
  167. rubber duckies
  168. fireworks
  169. rockets
  170. aliens
  171. feathers
  172. lace
  173. goldfish
  174. chocolate
  175. pumpkin patch
  176. flamingo
  177. once upon a time
  178. unicorn
  179. rock star
  180. Hollywood
  181. archery
  182. fireflies
  183. stargazing
  184. neon
  185. animal prints
  186. volleyball
  187. glow in the dark
  188. bowling
  189. spy
  190. chef
  191. cooking challenge
  192. ombre
  193. dance party
  194. donuts
  195. rock (as in actual rocks)
  196. fossils/archeologist
  197. motorcycle
  198. superhero
  199. space
  200. duck
  201. turtle
  202. lamb
  203. horse
  204. secret agent
  205. zoo
  206. safari
  207. surfing



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On thinking…

February 3, 2014

I’ve been doing some thinking.

Maybe I’m not a home and diy blogger.

Maybe that’s why I can’t seem to make this blog stick.

Maybe I need to be a lifestyle blogger, which allows me to have some of that but mostly gives me license to do whatever and talk about whatever. Maybe that will make me feel more connected.

Maybe I’ll start collecting stories and ideas to go with crafts and photos and such. Mmm, photos. I miss taking photos with my DSLR!

Maybe you’ll hear from me more often, and soonūüôā


Bon’s Book Club: The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty

February 2, 2014

Whaaaattttt????? I’m actually posting something????

It’s time for my first book as a part of Bon’s Book Club! When she posted about the club, I added it immediately to my personal regime as part of my resolutions for this year, and I finished the daggone thing by January 2nd. I’ve been sitting, waiting patiently impatiently to share my thoughts, and while they probably won’t be any deep insights this time around, I’m excited to share my viewpoint, nonetheless. Yes, I’m a week late. Oopsies.

Here we go.

+ The book is told from the viewpoint of three women.  Which women did you like the most and why?  Whom did you dislike the most and why?

I can sympathize with Rachel. She feels like the day Janie died sucked all of the life out of her. I can’t say that I would or would not have chosen her path. Cecilia just pisses me off. She’s definitely my least-liked character, and probably because I can relate to her in many ways, wanting to have the perfect life and such. Her moral choices, her complete trust in her husband and refusal to open the letter – those are the things that aggravate me. I couldn’t for a second make the same choices. I couldn’t sit on something so huge, knowing that someone had been wronged. Maybe it is easy to say that looking through the window into someone else’s life, and maybe I would feel differently had it been my own husband, but then again, my own husband has always been open and forthcoming about everything, so the weird behavior would’ve frustrated me from the beginning. As for Tess, I wish she would’ve just completely left Will and Felicity behind and not taken him back. Sure, her jumping straight into bed with Connor wasn’t the best choice, but at least it was an honest one.

I don’t think I have a least-liked or most-liked character. I need a second read of the book to really delve in and analyze this question, to discover their nuances a bit more.

+ What would you have done if you had found out the secret that Celia did? ¬†Did you agree with the way she handled it? ¬†What is the “right” thing to do in a situation like that?

Hmm…. Again, from the outside looking in, I couldn’t have possibly held in the secret. I would’ve forced John Paul’s hand to come clean, to let go of the burden. Even if he had gone to jail, at least the burden would be released and he could begin to work through the guilt. The honesty he finally shared with her could’ve created a completely different marriage scenario.

+ What was the point of the side story with Tess?  Do you excuse the way she acted during that week because of the uncertainty in her marriage?

I think Liane put those bits in there to give a bit of lightheartedness and hope to a very heavy book. What she did was wrong, and just as wrong as the emotional affair between Will and Felicity, but it was honest and realistic and cathartic for the the character. I honestly wish she would’ve dumped her marriage, which is something I wish I didn’t feel because I don’t generally believe in divorce, but Will most likely will hurt her again and that’s something that she shouldn’t have to bear again. This wasn’t an overnight thing, but a long, repeated history of emotional violation.

+ Do you believe the bike accident was adequate “penance” for what John Paul had done?

Absolutely not. Polly didn’t do anything and now she’s the victim.

+ Did you like the resolution of the book?  Did you feel there was enough closure?

If I remember correctly, I screamed out loud out of frustration, haha. The what-ifs slayed me. SLAYED ME.

Overall, even though this book was frustrating and emotionally upheaving, I loved it. Even though I had figured out the basics of the plot early on, I want to read it again to actually have a chance to analyze it more thoroughly. I also need to not finish the book an entire month before book club so I remember the details in order to have an effective discussion! If you are looking for a good read, this is it.


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